As I anxiously await the arrival of our third daughter, it causes me to reminisce about my first two girls and those precious first weeks and months with them as new babies. Honestly, some of the first year with each of them is a bit of a blur – some days seemed to go by slowly and some seemed to go by so fast! When you’re exhausted, it’s sometimes hard to remember how you dealt with certain things or how you even made it through the long, sleepless nights. I do remember most of the first year with each of my girls, though, and I know that I’m here today to tell the tale!
Here are some ways I learned to survive those emotional and often sleepless nights and days of the first year with my new babies. If you’re becoming a mom for the first time, here’s what I’d recommend trying to do during their first year:
- Get as much sleep as you possibly can. An exhausted mom is an emotional mom. If you’re having your first baby, nap when she naps! If it’s your second baby, it’s a little trickier to find a nap time if you have a toddler that doesn’t nap any longer, so go to bed early!
- Get as much help as you possibly can. Do you have a mom, mom-in-law, or a good friend or two near by? Ask them for advice or help during the first year (especially the first month). Don’t be afraid to ask for help with meals, housekeeping, baby-holding, or help with your other children. Being a new mom is HARD!
- Don’t try to be perfect. It’s impossible to be the perfect mother all of the time. You are only human and you can only do so much! Do the very best you can for your baby, and don’t be too hard on yourself if you have a bad day, or you (or your baby!) doesn’t act exactly like the “text book” says you should. If you continually fall short of high expectations, you’ll wear yourself out.
- Don’t compare yourself to other moms. What works for another mom may not work for you and your baby. There are A LOT of opinionated parents out there that may try to tell you what you’re doing wrong, but try not to let them sway your decisions. Some sensitive issues I’ve faced head-on in the past are cloth diapering, breastfeeding, immunizations and attachment parenting. Do what works best for you and your new babe, and don’t judge other moms who do things differently.
- Take time for yourself. If you can find even a sliver of time (when you’re not trying to sleep!) for yourself during the day, take it! Whether it’s to read a book, talk to friends on social media, or take a bath, it really helps to spend time alone debriefing. When I was nursing my babies, I loved to sneak on Facebook on my phone to have a little bit of adult conversation… I craved just a few sentences back and forth with my friends to feel a little “human” again!
- Enjoy your baby. The first year goes by really quickly (and, like I mentioned, a little hazily). Hold and rock them as much as you can. Sing to them. Snuggle them. Catch a glimpse of them when they’re sleeping. Take a ton of photos. Write down memories. You’ll never regret doing those things when they’re older!
Speaking of first years, Sears is celebrating the one year anniversary of two adorable baby clothing brands being carried exclusively in their stores – Carter’s and OshKosh! To celebrate, they’re giving away a trip for a family of four to Orlando, Florida!
The grand prize includes:
- direct flights to and from Orlando
- 4 days, 3 nights hotel accommodation
- multi-parks passes
- full-size car rental with unlimited mileage and more!
Does that sound as blissful to you as it does to me? Enter here before March 9th for your chance to win.
I’m also celebrating the 1 year anniversary of Carter’s and OshKosh at Sears here on The DIY Mommy by offering you a chance to win a $50 Sears Canada gift card so that you can spend it on some sweet little Carter’s outfits for your darling!
Please use the Rafflecopter widget below to enter to win by February 27th. (For this giveaway, you must be a resident of Canada, and apologies, but this giveaway excludes Quebec residents. Youmust be 18 years or older, and must not have won on any other blog! However, you can enter across as many blogs giving away Sears Canada gift cards as you want.)
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